Mexico.- Mario Guerra, psychotherapist, and thanatologist, ontological coach, ask if you do anything to avoid conflicts or if you are one of the people to whom the conflicts cause anxiety or anxiety. If your answer is positive Waters! It is not the same to prevent conflicts than to do more than necessary to avoid them
What is the price you have paid to bring the party in peace with someone else?
It is the disagreement that you have with another person, or with yourself, where you hold two mutually exclusive positions about something and that has not been resolved.
When agreements are reached, the conflict disappears.
How to know if you are a conflict avoider?
- Change the conversation topic
- Distract the other’s attention with anything.
- You directly discuss the topic:
- Keeping silent or leaving the other talking only.
- Making you the offended or the angry.
- Blaming the other for the conflict in himself by taking a false “pacifying” attitude to be able to scrub in the face his foolishness, intransigence or little tolerance.
- Appearing in a hurry.
- Saying that “this is not the right time or place,” but never taking up the subject again.
- “Give the plane” to the other in a sarcastic way.
- Cedes “kindly” (submissively) your opinion, point of view or needs as long as another or others do not get upset or get hurt.
- Using formulas such as “how you want”, “I do not care” or “choose you”.
- Important decisions or actions that you believe will bring negative consequences for you, for another person or for a relationship.
- Because you spend your life searching without finding (because it probably does not exist) how to communicate that decision or act without there being the slightest negative consequence for anyone.
- You do not even tolerate the idea of them looking at you ugly or going to say anything about you.